Identifying & Clearing Limiting Beliefs for Asking Better Questions

As you begin the find the things that are keeping you from asking what you want to be asking, you start to reckon with them. Sometimes they are physical things, or environmental, or situational and can be resolved by an action or a conversation.

Sometimes, they are beliefs that are lodged so far into our subconscious that we don't always see them. When we start to become aware of the thoughts that arise when we get clear on what we want or need (usually these thoughts arise with the feeling of fear or nervousness or shame or guilt or anxiety), then we want to write them down.

We want to see them. Acknowledge them. Thank them. Meet them with love, not judgement - not even correction. We want to get curious. This is your invitation to work with these limiting beliefs in curiosity and love.

Here's one way you can do this:

Journal the following for every belief that comes up or shows up in your way.

If you aren't sure what your limiting beliefs are (nothing comes up when you get nervous to ask questions, you can start with question #1. If you are aware of a thought or belief, skip to #2).

1. What have the people closest to you said about asking for what you (anyone) want(s) and need(s)? Or what have you heard other people say about asking for what you (or anyone) want(s) and need(s)?

2. How has this message shaped your views about asking questions?

3. How has this message supported or benefited you? (trust me, if you have it as a belief, it has supported you in some way).

4. Even though it has supported or benefited you, has it also held you back? How?

5. Do you believe this message is true? (yes/no)

6. Do you choose to continue believing this, or would you like to choose another belief or way of thinking? (Name it. Own it.)

7. What else comes to mind when you think about this message?