🚀 the untold secret behind quantum leaping
Consider this:
The juice of your growth, your wildest success, and abundance beyond your imagination is found when you get honest about where you are struggling and ask for very specific help.
Just to be clear, it's NOT about what coach you hire, how much you invest in yourself, or pretending that things are easy and great.
🍊 The juice is made by exposing your deepest secrets, vulnerabilities, uncertainties, stressors and pain-points (with someone who can help you which is not always someone that you need to hire or pay).
Early in Jeff Rosenthal's career, he was spending time with a prospective mentor. At the end of their time together, this guy said to him
“Listen if you are going to tell me how great everything is when we spend time together, I have friends and I don't need any new friends. But if you want to share with me the challenges you are facing, I want to help you. I get joy out of helping young entrepreneurs grow."
Essentially, this guy was explaining to Jeff the difference between developing a relationship with a potential friend and developing a relationship with a potential mentor.
I found myself saying this exact same thing to someone earlier today.
My favorite interactions with clients, mentees and acquaintances are when they come to me with the hard questions. I don't mean well-thought out, perfectly articulated, ambiguous-as-hell, over-arching life questions. I sure as hell don't mean the deep questions that arise after a week (or a month or 3 months) spent in hermit-mode after you think you've figured it out.
I mean the ones you are afraid to ask because it's slightly embarrassing to share where you really are, what you are really thinking, and what you are actually facing. I mean the questions that arise when you are in the mess. The ones that you ask around when you are talking to your friends and family or people you admire.
Why?
Because that's where you can actually get meaningful help.
Because that's where the breakthroughs live.
Because that's the secret to quantum leaping.
And I loveeeee to witness a good quantum leap.
But don't get me wrong, I also love a great existential life or business question. Just, I have friends for that.
And, your growth is in your mess – not your philosophizing of it (note to self).
So this is my homework for you –
Find someone in your network or adjacent to your network that you really admire – someone that has done things that you want to do, or someone that has access to something that you want.
Reach out to to them and ask them if they would be willing to spend some time with you to help you with [insert something very specific]. Perhaps they are willing to chat with you. Perhaps they are willing to meet you virtually or in person.
When you meet with them, get really honest about what you need and where you could use the most help. Expose your deepest secrets, vulnerabilities, uncertainties, stressors and painpoints around [insert your very specific topic]. Ask them for their help.
BONUS POINTS: Report back and let me know how it goes. Email hello[at]thecorppsychic.com with subject line “Reporting Back: Quantum Leap Homework”.
Note: Sharing the very real, raw, unpolished parts of yourself as they are in development is hard. It’s scary. It’s uncomfortable.
Vulnerability is a combination of exposure, risk and uncertainty.
And, this kind of vulnerability with purpose is necessary for rapid growth and expansion. It is the untold (and unpopular) secret to quantum leaps in life, love and business.
If you want to become a master of purposeful vulnerability to catalyze your biggest quantum leaps, consider joining 👁VISIBILITY.
Jeff Rosenthal is a co-founder of Summit Series. Read about him here.
The story about his early-in-career-mentorship can be found here.
